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Archive for General Family Law – Page 2

Child-Inclusive Mediation

Posted by Gerald Williams 
· January 15, 2014 
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As an attorney, I have been involved in countless parenting disputes, mediations and evaluations in which the issue of a child’s preference is considered, or ruled out, as a factor.  The Minnesota custody statute sets forth the child’s preference as a factor to be considered, “if the court deems the child to be of sufficient age to express preference.”  See Minn. Stat. Section 518.17, subs. 1(a)(2).

For many custody professionals, the issue is not so much the child’s preference as it is the child’s perspective.  The notion of a preference contemplates that the child is choosing between the parents.  That is one of the worst things that anyone could compel a child to do, regardless of whether it is the parent, the family court judge, an attorney, or a custody professional pushing for the child to do so.  Moreover, for every instance in which the child’s bona fide preference has a true bearing on the determination of the parenting plan, there are many instances in which a parent – maybe both parents – have a mistaken belief that the child (a) genuinely has a preference and (b) the child’s preference should be a determining factor in the parenting plan.

Child-inclusive mediation is designed to address head-on the child’s perspective.  In so doing, the child’s preference, if it has a true bearing on the determination of the parenting plan, can be factored in.  The model provides for the involvement of a mediator and a child consultant.  The child has contact only with the child consultant, not with the mediator, and certainly not with the family court or either parent’s attorney.  What the child consultant learns from his or her meeting with the child is then shared with the parents and the mediator so that the child’s perspective can be given proper attention as the parents attempt to resolve parenting disputes.

In December 2013, I took mediator training for child-inclusive mediation, the first training of its kind in Minnesota.  I am eager to pursue child-inclusive mediation in 2014 and in future years, either as a mediator or as an attorney representing one of the parents.  The process holds a great deal of promise for properly balancing the interest of keeping children out of parenting disputes, but allowing children to have a voice in the parenting plan that emerges from those disputes.

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Categories : Child Custody, General Family Law, Mediation

Onset of Divorce When There is Domestic Violence

Posted by Gerald Williams 
· October 28, 2013 
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Domestic violence causes the end of many marriages.  When the breaking point comes, it often involves a restraining order.  In many cases, the breakup is triggered by an incident in which someone calls 911.  But in some cases, especially when minor children are involved, it is preferable to avoid a restraining order and/or a 911 call.

The 911 call is necessary when circumstances reach a heightened and urgent level of conflict.  A restraining order is necessary when an abuser is not deterred by the principle of breaking the pattern of abuse and doing the right thing.  So in many cases,  a more orderly breakup is not possible.

When a more orderly breakup is possible, though, it can come about by the more constructive actions of one or both of the parties.  If the abusive party acknowledges the abusive dynamic of the relationship, that goes a long way towards facilitating a smooth separation.  That provides for a recognition, at a calm and reasoned point in time, that a transition needs to happen – a transition that will benefit both parties since both parties benefit from ending the abusive patterns.

Also, if the abused party resolves to make a change and end the abusive relationship when circumstances are not at a heightened urgency, that party can transition into a safe environment without invoking the assistance of peace officers.

Best yet, if both parties mutually acknowledge that a non-abusive relationship is not possible, then both parties can take the steps necessary to make an orderly transition that avoids the tension and conflict of a 911 call or proceedings for a Domestic Abuse Order for Protection or harassment restraining order.

 

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Categories : Divorce, General Family Law

Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) Struck Down by U.S. Supreme Court

Posted by Gerald Williams 
· June 26, 2013 
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By a 5-4 decision, the U.S. Supreme Court has struck down the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA).  Justice Anthony Kennedy issued the opinion, and was joined by Justices Breyer, Ginsburg, Kagan and Sotomayor.

The Court also declined (in a 5-4 decision) to address a federal court’s reversal of Proposition 8 in California, which clears the way for same-sex marriages in California to be legally solemnized.  That decision was issued by Chief Justice John Roberts, joined by Justices Scalia, Ginsburg, Breyer and Kagan.

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Categories : General Family Law

Minnesota Will Become the Twelfth State to Legalize Same Sex Marriage – Update

Posted by Gerald Williams 
· May 14, 2013 
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Yesterday, May 13, 2013 the Minnesota Senate approved the bill to legalize same sex marriage in Minnesota.  It is expected to be signed by Governor Dayton today, May 14, 2013.

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Categories : General Family Law

Minnesota May Become the Twelfth State to Legalize Same Sex Marriage – Update

Posted by Gerald Williams 
· May 9, 2013 
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The bill to legalize same sex marriage in Minnesota has passed the Minnesota House.  The Minnesota Senate is expected to take the legislation up on its floor on Monday.

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Categories : General Family Law

Minnesota May Become the Twelfth State to Legalize Same Sex Marriage

Posted by Gerald Williams 
· May 8, 2013 
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How quickly things change.  Not too long ago, Minnesotans were asked to vote on a state constitutional amendment to ban gay marriage.  That measure was defeated last November by popular vote.  Now, the Minnesota legislature is taking up a bill to legalize same sex marriage, and it appears that the bill will reach the House floor for a vote tomorrow (May 9, 2013) and the Senate floor on Monday, May 13, 2013.

An important aspect of the bill is the repeal of Minnesota’s DOMA (Defense of Marriage Act) provision.  Minnesota Statute Section 517.03, subd. 1(b) currently provides, “A marriage entered into by persons of the same sex, either under common law or statute, that is recognized by another state or foreign jurisdiction is void in this state and contractual rights granted by virtue of the marriage or its termination are unenforceable in this state.”  The bill in process in the legislature would remove the above-referenced DOMA provision from Minnesota law.

If the bill passes, it would set the stage for the dissolution of same sex marriages to be processed in essentially the same manner as the dissolution of other marriages.  There will continue to be other proceedings necessary to address child custody, parenting time and parenting plans as they pertain to same sex spouses and co-parents, just as there have been for years other proceedings pertaining to stepparents, adoptive parents and other interested parties connected to child custody cases.

In addition to the District of Columbia, the states that already recognize same sex marriage are:

1.  Massachusetts

2.  Connecticut

3.  Iowa

4.  Vermont

5.  New Hampshire

6.  New York

7.  Washington

8.  Maryland

9.  Maine

10.  Rhode Island

11.  Delaware

 

 

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Categories : General Family Law

Transferring Title to a Car in a Divorce

Posted by Gerald Williams 
· April 23, 2013 
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If you are awarded a motor vehicle in a divorce, be sure to take care of the title.

If the title to the vehicle is solely in your name, you do not need to take further action.

If the title to the vehicle is in the other party’s name, the title must be transferred.  You can do this by signing your name as “Buyer” in the transfer section of the title, and the other party signing their name as “Seller.”

If the title to the vehicle is in both parties’ names, the title must be transferred as well.  You can do this by signing your name as “Buyer,” and both parties signing their names as “Sellers.”

If the title is missing, you may apply for a duplicate title from Driver and Vehicle Services through this link: http://www.dmv.org/mn-minnesota/replacing-a-lost-title.php.

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Categories : General Family Law

The Value of an Attorney During Divorce

Posted by Gerald Williams 
· March 26, 2013 
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Times are tough.  Many families and individuals have struggled the past few years because home values have dropped and jobs are difficult to come by.  Financial problems add to or are the cause of marital discord.   Not surprisingly, when couples decide to divorce, many find the idea of hiring an attorney distasteful, if for no other reason than that it will be an additional financial cost.  More and more divorcing parties decide to represent themselves during the divorce process.  For some families, this makes good sense.  If the issues are straightforward and you agree on all relevant terms, then you may be able to effectively fill out the paperwork and complete the process on your own.  Minnesota makes all of the necessary forms available online here: http://www.mncourts.gov/selfhelp/?page=342.

Unfortunately, the issues are not always as straightforward as they seem and the agreement is not always as complete as it should be.  We see two common situations in which parties have represented themselves during a divorce — or some portion of it — and have required the services of an attorney after the fact.  One situation is when parties fill out the divorce paperwork on their own, but the Court refuses to sign off on it.  Sometimes the Court tells the parties what is wrong with the paperwork, but it can be confusing to identify the problems and know how to fix them.  Judges often suggest or strongly urge one or both parties to hire an attorney to review and revise the paperwork.  The set-back can be frustrating.

The second common scenario presents an even tougher issue for unrepresented parties.  Not uncommonly, self-represented parties will submit an agreement to the Court and it will be accepted and approved.  If you are not aware of your rights at the time of the divorce, but then later realize that you have gotten an unfair deal, or are stuck in a difficult situation, it can be hard to go back and remedy the situation.  Common pitfalls include issues with real estate, retirement account transfers, custody or parenting time agreements, and child support collection.

The difficult thing about property division issues is that property division is final upon entry of the divorce.  If an attorney is involved with the drafting of the divorce agreement, the attorney can offer advice to protect you against common contingencies.  For example, what if the house doesn’t sell?  Or, what if you or your spouse are unable to refinance?  Who will pay for unforeseen fees associated with a QDRO (the separate document that provides for both spouses to share in a retirement account)?  While hindsight is 20/20, there is often little a party can do to remedy a property-related problem that has popped up after the divorce is final.

With the child-related issues like parenting time and child support, the Court always retains jurisdiction to revisit these issues if need be.  However, the standard for changing the agreement can be quite high.  For example, it may not be enough to realize after-the-fact that the parenting time schedule doesn’t work well for your child(ren).  Unless the other parent agrees with you and you jointly undertake to change the schedule, it may remain “as is” unless you can show that it endangers the child.  When it come to enforcement of child support, it is likely that you will be able to update the Court Order to promote enforcement of it, but it will cost you additional money to do that.  If it were drafted correctly initially, that cost could be avoided.

For these reasons and more, we strongly recommend that anyone thinking about or starting the divorce process hire an attorney.  At a minimum, it makes good sense to hire an attorney to either draft the agreement that you and your spouse have reached or to have the attorney review the paperwork that you and your spouse have filled out together.  As they say “an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.”

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Categories : Child Custody, Child Support, Divorce, General Family Law

The Uniform Deployed Parent Custody and Visitation Act

Posted by Gerald Williams 
· February 24, 2013 
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In July 2012, the Uniform Law Commission approved of the Uniform Deployed Parent Custody and Visitation Act, to address issues that arise when a family court matter involves a parent serving in the military.  The Uniform Law Commission (ULC), established in 1892, is responsible for such Acts as the Uniform Child Custody Jurisdiction and Enforcement Act (UCCJEA) and the Uniform Interstate Family Support Act (UIFSA).  The ULC is also known as the National Conference of Commissioners on Uniform State Laws (NCCUSL).  

The purpose of the uniform laws promulgated by the ULC is to provide clarity and consistency among state laws.  Most aspects of family law are legislated at the state level, not the federal level.  So the same issues may be addressed very differently in different states.  When the ULC approves of an Act, the laws that comprise the Act must be ratified by the various state legislatures.  As each state passes a set of uniform laws, there may be slight variation in each state’s adoption of the Act.  But there is a high level of consistency, state by state, that could not be attained without the ULC’s Acts.

The Uniform Deployed Parent Custody and Visitation Act (UDPCVA) contains common-sense provisions to avoid penalizing a deployed parent while also giving proper regard for the rights of the non-deployed parent, in carrying out what is in the best interests of the child(ren) involved.  The main provisions of the Act address the devising and implementation of a temporary co-parenting arrangement in light of a parent’s deployment, including how to address the deployed parent’s transition back home after the deployment ends.

The UDPCVA may or may not be ratified by all fifty states, as UIFSA was in a period of approximately two years after it was introduced.  But we can anticipate adoption of the Act in many states in the coming months.

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Categories : Child Custody, General Family Law, Interstate issues

Four Primary Issues in Divorce

Posted by Gerald Williams 
· January 24, 2013 
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While a divorce can be a challenging process, there are four primary issues in divorce that must be addressed .  After the initial difficult decision of whether to pursue a dissolution action, many parties wonder where to begin in sorting through the many pieces of the marital relationship.  One helpful place to start is to realize that there are two primary issues that apply to every divorce and two additional primary issues that apply when the divorcing couple has minor or dependent children:

Property Division

Almost every marital estate includes assets and debts.  Both must be identified, disclosed, and divided equitably between the parties.  Assets commonly include: the marital homestead, other real estate, stocks and bonds, retirement accounts, business interests, motor vehicles, and personal property (such as jewelry, electronics, home goods and furnishings, etc.).  Debts commonly include: second mortgages, credit card balances, personal loans, lines of credit, student loans, and medical bills.

Whether a party intends to hire an attorney or proceed without one, it is helpful to write out the list of assets and debts with even a rough estimate of their values.  Doing so allows the party and / or his or her attorney to conceptualize the marital estate and to begin to formulate potential options for a fair property settlement.

Spousal Maintenance

Spousal maintenance was formerly known as “alimony.”  It is less commonly awarded now than it was in the past, but there are still plenty of situations in which spousal maintenance is appropriate.  The two primary factors are the length of the marriage and the income disparity between the spouses.

If a party believes he or she may be entitled to spousal maintenance, it is helpful to begin by writing out a budget of his or her reasonable monthly living expenses.  If the party is unable to meet his or her reasonable expenses, and the party’s spouse is able to contribute to them, then spousal maintenance may be appropriate.

If spousal maintenance is appropriate, it is also important to consider how long it should be paid from one spouse to the other.  In a minority of cases, permanent or otherwise long-term spousal maintenance is necessary.  In a majority of cases, parties agree or are ordered to exchange spousal maintenance for a limited amount of time.  Sometimes the time frame includes a “step-down” approach whereby the amount of spousal maintenance decreases over time until it is no longer paid at all.  It is also commonly tied to the spousal maintenance recipient’s ability to earn income, which may be expected to increase when enough time has passed for him or her to seek education or take other steps towards gainful employment.

One of the most important aspects of the spousal maintenance issue is whether the parties will agree to divest the Court of jurisdiction over the spousal maintenance issue after the divorce is final.  If so, the parties’ agreement will include a Karon waiver, which prohibits the Court from modifying spousal maintenance in the future.  If the parties have not agreed to a Karon waiver, then either party may petition the Court for a modification if the parties’ circumstances change.

Custody and Parenting Time

There are two types of custody: legal and physical.  Legal custody relates to issues like religious upbringing, major medical decisions, and type of education. Parties often agree to share legal custody decisions and are awarded joint legal custody.  In a minority of cases, sole legal custody for one parent is an appropriate resolution to this issue.

Physical custody relates to the day-to-day care of the child.  Increasingly, the label of “joint physical custody” vs. “sole physical custody” has become far less meaningful than the parenting time schedule the parties are ordered to follow.  Rather than focusing on the label of “joint” or “sole,” the better focus here is for a party to give serious thought to the co-parenting  schedule that he or she believes is in the “best interests” of the child(ren).

Here are a few common schedules:

  • The parties follow a 5-2-2-5 schedule where one parent takes Mondays and Tuesdays, the other parent takes Wednesdays and Thursdays, and the parties alternate weekends (Friday through Sunday).
  • The parties follow a week-on / week-off schedule.
  • One parent provides the primary residence for the child(ren) who see the other parent every other weekend and one or two nights per week.
  • One parent provides the primary residence for the child(ren) who see the other parent on school breaks and for alternating holidays.  This schedule is especially common when the parents do not reside in the same state.

Of course, where safety concerns or other serious issues are present, a shared custody arrangement like those described above may not be appropriate.  In these cases, sole physical custody to one parent with limited visitation and / or supervised visitation by the other parent may be necessary.

Child Support

Child support is often relatively straightforward.  It is based on the parties’ relative incomes and the agreed-upon or court-ordered parenting time schedule.  The Minnesota Child Support Guidelines Calculator is an excellent tool for practitioners and curious parties alike: http://childsupportcalculator.dhs.state.mn.us/Calculator.aspx  It provides the basis for the child support numbers the parties will work with as they attempt to resolve the various pieces of the divorce.

The three types of child support considered in any child support award are:

  1. Basic support which is paid from one parent to the other for the day-to-day necessities of the minor child(ren)
  2. Medical support which divides the costs of medical insurance premiums and other out-of-pocket medical costs as between the parties
  3. Childcare support which divides the costs of childcare as between the parties

Parties may agree to deviate from the Minnesota Child Support Guidelines, but to do so they must first acknowledge the Guidelines and then assert that it is in the best interests of the children to deviate from them.

The foregoing outline is a very general and very basic representation of the potential issues parties will face as part of the dissolution process.  These issues are often challenging and complex.  Any party faced with a pending divorce is well-adivsed to hire an attorney to assist him or her with the process.  Skillful representation is often key to insuring  a fair and efficient resolution.  Contact the attorneys at Williams Divorce & Family Law today to see if our firm would be a good fit for you.

 

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